Disappointment and failure are two of life’s most difficult frustrations to surpass. Whether it’s an exam, an interview, or your own personal battle, it’s hard to come to terms with failure when you know you’ve given something your all; tried your hardest; given it 110% (basically any cliché about working your socks off!).
One of the worst things about failure is its unforgiving nature. When you’ve faced disappointment once, you’re able to muster up the determination to give it another shot. Yet countless failures can feel like a constant battle which leave you feeling as defeated (if not worse) than the first let-down.
So how do we retaliate against this cruel and merciless force that is failure?
We use our greatest weapon – Motivation. We continue to fight until we ultimately succeed. If we surrender to failure, all of the battlewounds from the previous disappointments will be for nothing. Motivation is failure’s worst enemy – although relentless failure may have managed to deter us, unyielding motivation will always succeed.
Remember, you may have lost some battles, but you can still win the war.
So 2015 is well and truly upon us. How many of those New Year’s resolutions have already been pushed aside, waiting to re-emerge at 11:58pm, 31/12/15? How many of you have already scoffed on a chocolate bar, whilst vowing to go to the gym five times a week; and who has snuck out for a quick fag, after declaring that they’d be smoke-free come 01/01/15? By setting yourself unsustainable resolutions, your issues will remain unresolved for yet another year.
When it comes addressing an issue, we often tell ourselves that we’ll do it tomorrow, or the next day, or even the day after that. As Ronan Keating once said (Yes – I did just quote Mr Keating!), what if ‘tomorrow never comes?’. Maybe if we consider each day as another ‘chance’, we’ll actually get a whole lot more done!
That is why this year, my resolution is a simple one: Resolute to achieve every goal I set myself. I turn 24 this year. That means I have over 23 years’ worth of memories, mistakes and experience behind me. This year, rather than trying to address singular issues whilst neglecting other matters, which I have done many a time before, I am determined to make full use of my 24th chance at life. That means ensuring that my ‘tomorrows’ will become my ‘todays’.
Happy New Year! Make this chance count!
What are you afraid of?
Ghosts? Darkness? Job interviews? The future?
When you’re a child, you believe that adults have no fear – they are able to fend off the monsters in your cupboard and bring light into the darkest of rooms. It is only as you grow older and become an adult yourself, that you realise no adult is fearless. Although their idea of terror may not be an eight-eyed ghoul lurking under their bed, their fear will still evoke the same sense of anxiety and dread. It could be fear of an upcoming job interview; the possibility of being made redundant whilst having a family to support; the gruelling wait for test results from a doctor.
Whatever the fear, it can consume you and have you tossing and turning at night, waiting for your terrifying monster to strike!
The overriding factor of fear is the unknown.
As a child, darkness is terrifying as your surroundings become unknown. Your imaginative mind creates monsters which you cannot see and protect yourself against.
As an adult, thoughts about the future, which you cannot control, can have you hiding under the covers, not wanting to face reality.
It’s about time we face those demons. In the same way that those childhood fears could simply be conquered by switching on a light, our adult fears can also be fought.
Rather than fearing what might happen, we should ‘switch on’ our own lights – Research, plan and prepare for those ‘might’s’ and make the unknown the inevitable.
Once the light is on, the fear should disappear.