Motivation – Failure’s worst enemy


Disappointment and failure are two of life’s most difficult frustrations to surpass. Whether it’s an exam, an interview, or your own personal battle, it’s hard to come to terms with failure when you know you’ve given something your all; tried your hardest; given it 110% (basically any cliché about working your socks off!).

One of the worst things about failure is its unforgiving nature. When you’ve faced disappointment once, you’re able to muster up the determination to give it another shot. Yet countless failures can feel like a constant battle which leave you feeling as defeated (if not worse) than the first let-down.

So how do we retaliate against this cruel and merciless force that is failure?

We use our greatest weapon – Motivation. We continue to fight until we ultimately succeed. If we surrender to failure, all of the battlewounds from the previous disappointments will be for nothing. Motivation is failure’s worst enemy – although relentless failure may have managed to deter us, unyielding motivation will always succeed. 
Remember, you may have lost some battles, but you can still win the war.


2015 – My 24th chance


So 2015 is well and truly upon us. How many of those New Year’s resolutions have already been pushed aside, waiting to re-emerge at 11:58pm, 31/12/15? How many of you have already scoffed on a chocolate bar, whilst vowing to go to the gym five times a week; and who has snuck out for a quick fag, after declaring that they’d be smoke-free come 01/01/15? By setting yourself unsustainable resolutions, your issues will remain unresolved for yet another year.

When it comes addressing an issue, we often tell ourselves that we’ll do it tomorrow, or the next day, or even the day after that. As Ronan Keating once said (Yes – I did just quote Mr Keating!), what if ‘tomorrow never comes?’. Maybe if we consider each day as another ‘chance’, we’ll actually get a whole lot more done!

That is why this year, my resolution is a simple one: Resolute to achieve every goal I set myself. I turn 24 this year. That means I have over 23 years’ worth of memories, mistakes and experience behind me. This year, rather than trying to address singular issues whilst neglecting other matters, which I have done many a time before, I am determined to make full use of my 24th chance at life. That means ensuring that my ‘tomorrows’ will become my ‘todays’.

Happy New Year! Make this chance count!

The Unknown – The monster under our beds.


What are you afraid of?

Ghosts? Darkness? Job interviews? The future?

When you’re a child, you believe that adults have no fear – they are able to fend off the monsters in your cupboard and bring light into the darkest of rooms. It is only as you grow older and become an adult yourself, that you realise no adult is fearless. Although their idea of terror may not be an eight-eyed ghoul lurking under their bed, their fear will still evoke the same sense of anxiety and dread. It could be fear of an upcoming job interview; the possibility of being made redundant whilst having a family to support; the gruelling wait for test results from a doctor.

Whatever the fear, it can consume you and have you tossing and turning at night, waiting for your terrifying monster to strike!

The overriding factor of fear is the unknown.

As a child, darkness is terrifying as your surroundings become unknown. Your imaginative mind creates monsters which you cannot see and protect yourself against.

As an adult, thoughts about the future, which you cannot control, can have you hiding under the covers, not wanting to face reality.

It’s about time we face those demons. In the same way that those childhood fears could simply be conquered by switching on a light, our adult fears can also be fought.

Rather than fearing what might happen, we should ‘switch on’ our own lights –  Research, plan and prepare for those ‘might’s’ and make the unknown the inevitable.

Once the light is on, the fear should disappear.



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What nobody tells you as an artist is that every project starts at the beginning. Not just the blank page, the empty stage, but that you have to re-establish your credentials and your quality every time. You can coast on reputation a little, but it doesn’t last long if you don’t deliver.

What nobody tells you is that praise—a standing ovation, a good review, your teacher’s approval—makes you feel good for a day, but one line of internet criticism from a stranger reverberates in your skull forever.

Frankly, I don’t see what all the fuss is about.

(I tried to feel bad when that critic killed himself the next year, but I didn’t.)

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Are you a Friend? Family? Or both?


Although the two are seemingly different types of relationships, I believe that their definitions are becoming blurred.

A friend is an individual whom you have met at some point in your life, with whom you share your joys and sorrows; laughs and tears.

A family member traditionally refers to someone who is, ultimately, a part of your life due to a genetic bond which ties you both together.

If this is the case, then why is it that we often recognise close family members e.g. our mother and our sister, as friends, and we refer to our best friends as our family? There appears to be no hierarchy between the two relationships – one is neither higher,  nor lower, than the other. So why is it that we feel the need to categorise the two?

I believe it’s based on our own experiences with that individual. We class family as friends if we feel we are able to be as open with them as we are with our best friends. We regard our friends as family when we feel so close to them that it is as if we share the same blood.

Either way it’s complimentary.

What a happy thought 🙂

The Digital Nightmare


‘Software is eating the world’ proclaimed Software Engineer, Marc Andreesan. What an interesting and somewhat frightening thought!

The idea that the digital world is taking over our reality sounds like the plot from a Sci-Fi horror movie! Well it seems that this ‘nightmare’ is becoming a reality.

We now live in a world where the digitalised is more prominent than the physical world in which we actually live. We now feel the need to post status updates of our current locations and ‘instagram’ images, rather than absorb the reality with our own eyes. Jean Baudrillard, Philosopher, predicted such an idea in his work ‘Simulacra and Simulation’. He alluded to the digital world as a ‘Map’ which, once upon a time, mirrored the ‘Territory’, being the real world. However it now appears that the ‘Map’ has surpassed us in the ‘real’ world – ‘it is the map that precedes the territory’. As James Cherkoff, Course Director at CIM, so aptly put it, ‘Rather than digital marketing, we are marketing in a digital world’.

Software giants, Microsoft,  demonstrated this idea perfectly in their recent Xbox ad. Breaking Bad Actor, Aaron Paul, is seen saying ‘Xbox on’ to verbally instruct his console to turn on. This led to viewers’ own Xboxs switching on – The perfect example of the ‘Map’ preceding, and controlling, elements of the ‘real’.

Google’s idea of the Path-to-Purchase demonstrates the presence of the digital in our everyday lives. It states that initially, there were two ‘Moments of Truth’ which led to the consumer buying a product.

1) Standing in front of the item which they want.
2) Owning the item.

But Google has gone one step further. They have introduced the idea of the ‘Zero Moment of Truth’. This is when, even after physically seeing a product in the real world, we feel the need to browse the digital world for its opinion of our desired product.

It appears that we are now living in a digitalised matrix where, if you have no digital presence, you may soon be forgotten. 

What a scary thought.